#cheokletquoted #6 Just because I don't speak up, doesn't mean I agree

Just because I don't speak up, doesn't mean I agree.

I just allow you to say what's on your mind &

have wisdom enough to not say what's on mine.

Silence can often be misunderstood for consent.

Especially when dealing with people who always have so. much. to. say.

And you think you lost because you remained silent?

Let me clarify.

Silence - is self-discipline.

Silence - is self-control.

Silence - is wisdom. sometimes.

Speaking up takes courage.

But keeping silent despite wanting to speak up, takes strength.

And knowing to speak up at the right time takes wisdom.

Speak.

But think first before you do.

#cheokletquoted #5 What you have doesn't make you who you are.

 

What you have doesn't make you who you are. 

And what you don't doesn't make you any less.

I can't be sure of others, but for me, I sometimes ask myself if I was lacking because I don't own a branded bag, I don't make a lot of money, I don't hold a big position at work and so - many I don'ts.

But then.

I came to discover that people who have all that are regular people too. 

Like me. 

We all eat. 

We shit. 

We cry. 

We hurt.

We puke.

We. Are. Human.

There is no-end to comparisons and when we die, we take nothing with us. 

The question is, as a person, stripped of your possessions including your job, your status, your reputation, your social circle - WHO ARE YOU? 

That's what we should always be asking ourselves, isn't it? Because that will the the real "you".

So.

Stay true & love yourself, then, love some more.

#cheokletquoted #4 It's ok if someone says shit about you

 It's ok if someone says shit about you. 

Because they don't know shit about you...

The truth is - even if they KNOW you, and STILL say shit about you - it's ok. 

Then you will know not to keep this person near you, without having to pay a bigger price to find out.

Shit-stirring is a popular mind game among the many mind games, 

and it works because people get affected when they are being talked about.

A reaction to an action always drives further actions and reactions.

And it never ends.

 The solution?

Don't react.

 Be responsible only for yourself and to yourself. 

Do not feel responsible for what someone else says because they are unimportant. 

#cheokletquoted #3 Beauty is not a person. Beauty is a spirit.

 

Beauty is not a person; beauty is a spirit. 

True beauty is in your spirit. Your thoughts. Your heart. Your intentions.

Appearance matters; but it doesn't last.
It is a beautiful spirit that does.

I ain't saying that appearance doesn't matter because it does.
It's a fact.
 (You are judged based on ur appearance within the first say, 30 seconds of meeting someone?)

But appearance doesn't last.
It changes.
It is unreliable.

And when it does;
It's your thoughts, your heart and your intentions that will lift you up.
 
They will build strength in your spirit to and make you shine in any and every situation.

So, start guarding your thoughts, your heart and your intentions;
Because your appearance will soon follow suit.
 

 

#cheokletquoted #2 No choice is also a choice.

 

One of the greatest thing about being human is we have freewill. We decide to love, laugh, cry, hurt or hate. Circumstances may be bleak but u can choose to make the most out of it.

The phrase "Oh well.. There's no choice.." is not something uncommon. 

I sometimes catch myself saying that and start feeling lousy about a situation.

The thing is, the more you think "there's just no choice" the more you feel compelled to believe that there is no hope in whatever crisis you are facing and have to suck it up and accept the thrash thrown at you whether you like it or not.

That itself leaves you feeling defeated, lousy, helpless - whatever negative cognition you may come up with.

Yet, there is a twist to this entire cycle. 

What if you stopped thinking "there's no choice" and instead think the opposite that "there's a choice"?

The situation may remain, but the action you take when you decide to see the opposite will change from an act of defeat to an act of victory.

So whenever you think "there's no choice", think again. You may actually have one.  Or more than one.

#cheokletquoted #1 Sometimes the only person stopping you, is you.

 

So go on, crawl, walk, run, jump, leap... you are one step closer to your dream the moment you start.

Sometimes we desire to do something and get trapped thinking what and how we should get started to do it. 

Can I do it? Should I do it? How should I do it?

The more we think, the more we just ... think... and all we do is think.

We stop ourselves from doing what we desire to do without even knowing it.

All we need is to just start by taking that first step. Whether we crawl or walk or run or jump - that first step will lead us to the next step which will lead us to the following step.

So get going and you will soon get there.