It's ok if someone says shit about you.
Because they don't know shit about you...
The truth is - even if they KNOW you, and STILL say shit about you - it's ok.
Then you will know not to keep this person near you, without having to pay a bigger price to find out.
Shit-stirring is a popular mind game among the many mind games,
and it works because people get affected when they are being talked about.
A reaction to an action always drives further actions and reactions.
And it never ends.
Be responsible only for yourself and to yourself.
Do not feel responsible for what someone else says because they are unimportant.